Book by Steven Bartlett
Ps:
This book is actually about fulfilment (happy), love (sexy) and success (millionaire).
Status:
Read
Rating:
4 Stars
Editors Foreword:
We are losing ourselves. We’re chasing the wrong things, asking the wrong questions, and polluting our minds. It’s time to stop, it’s time to resist and it’s time to rethink the fundamental social blueprint that our lives are built upon.
‘As an 18-year-old, black, broke, lonely, insecure, university drop-out, from a bankrupt family, I wrote in my diary that I wanted to be a ‘Happy Sexy Millionaire’ by the age of 25. By 25 I was a multi-millionaire having created a business worth over $300m dollars. Ironically, in achieving everything I set out to, I learnt that I was wrong about almost everything… The world had lied to me. It lied to me about how you attain fulfilment, love and success, why those things matter, and what those words actually mean.
In this book, I’ll dismantle the most popular, unaddressed lies about happiness that we’ve been led to believe. I’ll expose the source of these lies, examine the incentives that fuel them and replace them with a practical set of scientifically proven and unconventional ideas that will help you to live a truly fulfilled life, a life full of the love you seek and the success you deserve.’
Quotes and highlights
“Some people just can’t seem to deal with any uncertainty in their lives, and time and time again they find themselves imprisoned in situations that kill their happiness, push them towards despair and gradually disintegrate their self-esteem. They don’t realise that in their attempt to avoid uncertainty and the short-term discomfort it might bring, they’re actually inadvertently opting for long-term misery. I believe that the happiness you’ll find across all areas of your life – your work, your relationships and everything in between – will positively correlate to your ability to deal with uncertainty.”
If you truly care about being happy in your life and successful in your work, you have little choice. You have to become the author of your own ‘script’, one written by your heart, not one directed by your society.
Fundamentally we’re all the by-product of not what has happened to us, but how we chose to handle it
They trap you in the toxic narrative that quitting is a weakness, an easy way out or, worse yet, that quitting is failure. I assure you – quitting is for winners and quitting is a skill.
Maybe you’ve always been happy, but the world, social media and external comparisons have convinced you that you can’t possibly be.
The only worthwhile comparison is YOU yesterday vs YOU today. If you want to be happy, you have to focus on that.
Social media has made ‘perfect’ look normal so now ‘good’ has become disposable.
You’ll never be defined, valued or measured by your car, bank balance, job title, followers or accomplishments.
You are not what happened to you. You are how you choose to handle it.
I became a happy sexy millionaire when I realised that striving to be a happy sexy millionaire was the one thing that stood the greatest chance of stopping me from becoming one.